MOUNT FOREST – In my profession I sometimes hear, “they didn’t want everyone getting together to cry”.
But those moments can be sacred for some and healing for others.
There are many names associated with celebrating the memory of a loved one: a funeral, memorial service, visitation, celebration of life – all are pivotal in the process of closure.
Regardless of name, these services can:
– bring family, friends, and community together. Sometimes even those who have been estranged or out of contact for some time. Human connection during a time of grief is vital. One of the critical factors in healing from grief is the support of other people;
– help acknowledge the reality of the death and start the grieving process; and
– highlight how a person mattered, providing solace for their loved ones while recognizing their impact on others and the contributions they brought to the community.
Is “it” going to be hard? Yes. Are you going to cry? Yes. Is it okay for your children, grandchildren, and friends to see you crying? You bet.
Does it matter how many people show up? Not at all. Technology is also available for family and friends to view a service virtually.
How will you plan everything? Your funeral director, along with your family and friends, will be with you every step of the way.
Does it have to be a traditional service? No, unless you want it to be. Whatever you choose can be as unique as the person who you are celebrating.
Perhaps a church service is important because your loved one was a member of the local church for years.
Maybe a service at a funeral home suits you – Johnny Cash’s greatest hits playing, as that was dad’s favourite singer.
Maybe it’s an open mic for family and friends to share memories. Perhaps gathering at the local Legion is the right fit, or a graveside service with an intimate gathering.
Every life matters and every person is unique.
Whatever you choose – know that you are allowing an opportunity to grieve with the love and support of those most important to you.
Never underestimate the importance of giving yourself, your family and friends the chance to say goodbye.
Holly Jordan is the funeral director at England Funeral Home in Mount Forest.